Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide by Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark

I’m pretty sure everyone writing for Hello Yellow Room is a Murderino. If you’re reading this and you’re not a Murderino, or you’ve never heard of the incredibly successful smash hit podcast My Favorite Murder, then stop right now and go download some episodes.

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This isn’t to say that everyone should or will like the MFM (My Favorite Murder) podcast. Comedy and crime don’t really blend for most people, as the ladies of MFM are the first to tell you at any of their mega-sold-out live shows. If the idea of two women coming together and rehashing the details of murder cases (or weird things buried in walls, or “I Survived” episodes, or intimate details of their personal struggles with addiction and therapy) with self-effacing humor, then get out of here.

I’m the type of person who wants to laugh, cry and gasp in equal parts.  “Stay Sexy and Don’t Get Murdered; The Definitive How-To Guide,”(I listened to the audiobook read by the authors, which made it feel like a really long version of the podcast) invokes all these emotional responses, sometimes all at the same time.

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The ladies discuss their own awkward, personal, super relatable journeys of growing up. First crushes, check. Family crises, check. Dealing with addiction and loss, check. They discuss the positive impact of therapy and real, true friendship. They praise the helpful, thoughtful and remarkable community that has risen up to rally around them—the Murderino community is strong. Like omg if you’re in, it’s the best cult you’ll ever join, these people are versatile, crafty, cunning and will always help you get home safe. When you see a Fan Cult button or an SSDGM vinyl sticker on a car, you know that person is going to come to your rescue if you need it, regardless of gender, race, or class. It’s that good of a group to belong to. I am so grateful for this community.

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And I’m grateful to have role models in these two women who never intended to be role models. They’re constantly learning and growing from their mistakes, attempting to be as inclusive and forward-thinking as possible. Their champion cry is that nobody is perfect. All you can do is look, listen, and try to be the best version of yourself. They inspired me to take therapy seriously. Their focus on self-improvement (when able, you can’t be self-improving all the time, that’s not how life works) helps me to embrace the little positive things that happen throughout my day instead of dwelling on the negative. It’s fucking life-affirming. To improve, incrementally, inching towards goals and not beating myself up for falling backward sometimes, is extremely rewarding.

I want to formally thank Joy the Baker (my favorite cooking & lifestyle blogger) for adding the podcast to a Sunday offerings post three years ago, which is how I found MFM in the first place. Visit Joy the Baker for more life-affirming honesty, positivity and delicious recipes.

I love this book, but really I just love this podcast. I love these women, and I love my friends who rally around them. Thanks for making content for well-intentioned weirdos like me.  Stay sexy and don’t get murdered.

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